Lately on Facebook I’ve been seeing those “Signs That You are an Introvert/Extrovert” lists going around, and they’ve got me thinking a lot about people and labels. I think one of the lists that I read had a disclaimer at the end about both types of person being a-OK, but that was after a list of like 657 things. Something about this introvert/extrovert meme feels kind of divisive to me. And really, how many people fit 100 percent into either category?
Sure, there are true introverts and extroverts, but most of us fall somewhere on a spectrum. One thing is certain: you are a person. Here’s how you can tell.
Signs that You are a Person
The thing about people is that we are all different, so some of these signs that you are a person might apply to you, and some won’t. Or maybe this whole list will resonate with you! Even if you don’t relate to a single thing on this list, though, you can be 100 percent sure that you are a person worthy of love and understanding.
1. Sometimes you want to be around people, sometimes you don’t.
Dr. Cynthia James – a psychologist that I made up – says, “People have things that we call ‘moods’ that make them want different things at different times. Moods can be affected by hormones, diet, sleep, exercise….any number of factors.” People tend to want different things depending on their moods.
2. Sometimes you want to sit quietly and read, and sometimes you want to go to a party.
Human beings are social animals, but they need their quiet time, too.
3. Sometimes you feel like making chit chat with somebody new, and sometimes that just seems like a bit much.
Chit chat can be a great way for people to find things that they have in common and connect, but sometimes putting forth that effort can be exhausting if you’re not in the mood for it.
4. Too much socializing makes you tired, but some days that’s exactly what you need, and you find it energizing.
If you’re feeling energetic, you might want to go to a party or some other social gathering. If you’re not, you might just want to have a solo Arrested Development marathon in your living room.
5. You don’t answer your phone when you need alone time and do when you feel like talking to people or making plans.
Your behavior is different depending on whether you feel like socializing or staying in. When you feel like socializing, you reach out to people or accept invitations, and when you don’t, you prefer not to talk on the phone or go anywhere.
6. Sometimes you like big-picture thinking and sometimes you enjoy breaking things down to nitty gritty details.
With some projects you enjoy thinking big and consider yourself an idea person, while others fascinate you with all of their unique ins and outs.
7. You tend to be really chatty when you’re feeling chatty.
…and you tend to not be chatty when you don’t.
8. Sometimes being the center of attention freaks you out, but other times you don’t mind so much.
This could be situational. Maybe you have no problem running a meeting but can’t stand talking to big groups at a party. Or vice versa. Or something else.
9. You sometimes like to talk with a friend about your troubles, or you sometimes need to process things before talking them out.
Depending on what’s going on with you, talking about your feelings helps you process them, but there are some problems that you’d rather sort through on your own.
10. Some days talking to people can be energizing, and other days you need quiet time to recharge your batteries.
If you’re in an outgoing mood, you might find a good conversation with friends – or even a stranger – enjoyable, while other times you’re feeling reflective, and a little bit of alone time is just what you need.
11. Sometimes you feel like you talk too much and other times you just have no idea what to say.
You react differently to different situations. Maybe you jump in on a conversation about Dr. Who but clam up when the topic turns to the latest summer blockbuster. Or the other way around. Or you’re interested – and not interested – in entirely different things.
12. When you read all of those list of signs that you are an introvert or an extrovert, you find that you relate to some things from all of them.
In fact, not all of the things on this list resonated with you either, because you’re a beautiful and unique individual.
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